When Weddings Make You Cry

I so love weddings! But they can be a mixed bag of emotions when you’ve walked the road of betrayal and divorce. The dress, the rings, the music…sometimes they bring up sad memories long forgiven but not quite forgotten.

A few years ago, my second husband and I attended a beautiful wedding. As the lovely young couple exchanged their vows, I instinctively reached for his hand. His grasp was warm and reassuring.


I’m still here. I always will be. And this time it’s forever.

As the celebration went on into the evening, I continued recounting my painful divorce now over a decade old. Jarred back into the moment by applause, I noted the grandparents now entering the dance floor. The DJ highlighted their fifty-plus years of marriage and the music began to play.

So precious. What a legacy this new young couple inherits!


I smiled through tears. These grandparents will leave such a beautiful inheritance of faithfulness…an inheritance I so wanted to leave for my children and grandchildren. If only I could erase divorce from my past.

On the long car ride back home I sat quietly with the heartache. My sweet husband (we’ve been married 10 years now)…held my hand again. But for the most part, I just quietly praying to my Father. Dear God, I can’t believe after all these years, the past can still affect me so much. Help me see You and Your plan in the midst of this mess. Increase my faith…?

Next morning I awoke to the same history. Funny thing about the past—it just can’t be changed. However, as I picked up my Bible, a new truth began to unfold in my heart and new healing soon followed.

I realized it’s time to redefine of my idea of inheritance.

Lamentations 3:19-24 says – 

“The thought of my suffering…is bitter beyond words.  I will never forget this awful time, as I grieve over my loss. Yet I still dare to hope when I remember this: The unfailing love of the LORD never ends! By his mercies we have been kept from complete destruction. Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each day. I say to myself, “The LORD is my inheritance; therefore, I will hope in him!”

1 Peter 1:3-5 says – 

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth

…instead of ongoing grief and pain

into a living hope

this means hope for today, like right now

through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade

…unlike imperfect relationships here on earth

This inheritance is kept in heaven for you,

…now that’s some safekeeping!

who through faith are shielded

…I am protected

by God’s power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time”

Beautiful as life-long marriages may be, they cannot compare to glory of my eternal inheritance. Perhaps its time to move over some emotional stock. My spiritual inheritance will never be lost. My brokenness has been redeemed by the precious blood of Jesus.

You have turned my mourning into joyful dancing. You have taken away my clothes of mourning and clothed me with joy” Psalm 30:11

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